Ben one of the hardest areas has been those strong fears which have truly run Your life. At times You are so scared of the reaction coming from just one man. They have run your life for many years, you have been so scared of how they will react to any area .

 

For years they expected their way and that was all. You would be there at times in a very physical fight with them. You have spent years doing what you can to keep them happy, only to realise they have to find their own happiness.

 

Yes its scary hearing the comments from the gallery with comments like what job, when you are an entrepreneur as well as a volunteer and heading out to save lives on the water whilst at times the community may be asleep. However you need to stop letting those comments run Your life. Stop letting the junk from families fears run Your life Ben.

 

Most of them are unprepared to understand where You are coming from that they will use fear and bad mouth others just to get their way. Talking about a son-in-law complaining about what they do rather than the good which they do have. They stand there scared and fearful using comments like we are concerned that Your wife will be the only person producing a income, although you are an entrepreneur and know that you can walk right back into a volunteer role at any time.

 

Ben you have jumped off high diving boards, been in an amusement park ride which the floor drops away off to a water slide. The area which has scared You most has always been relationships. Its time to build some constructive relationships and stop letting the negative relationships which run their lives in fear have a say.

 

They will come up with a comment like do as Your told, they will find some reason to install their own fear and unhappiness on You that you need to build that positive shield and hang around those who are positive. Stop taking on board others opinions and criticisms, You will never make them happy they need to find their own happiness.

 

You are safe Ben and You are loved by your amazing wife Jenny, Your son Jamie and many more. Ben your families opinion of your own dream is their opinion. It may be scary for you to look at foster care or adoption however remember there will always be those who will stand there supporting the dream. It is Your own dream. Stop letting families reaction run Your life, Your wife Jenny will have been happy with you knowing that you looked after Forster kids.

 

It’s time to focus on your health. To focus on your goals and dreams.

 

Thank you so much my amazing friends and family from mentoring for free for being those wonderful friends and family which needed. Thank you to my amazing mentors for Life Ken Klemm and Linda and Michael Dlouhy for your ongoing love, support and encouragement. A special thank you to my amazing wife Jenny for all you do.

 

Your friend and mentor for Life

 

Big hugs our friends

 

Ben Drake

 

West Ryde nsw Australia

 

Helping families of Australia and New Zealand to live better lives.