Ethel Van Zanten Tucson,, Arizona, USA
Chapter 15-How to Outwit the
Six Ghosts of Fear
I feel that I have outwitted the six ghosts of fear, but the one thing that I have to still conquer is WORRY. Having said that the one statement that gave me an aha in reading this chapter again is that making a decision is the best way to fight FEAR.
Make a decision and stick by it until you can realize whether it is a good decision or it must be changed.
Mr. Hill says,”An unsettled mind is helpless. Indecision makes an unsettled mind. Most individuals lack the will power to reach a decisions promptly and to stand by them after they have been made even during normal business conditions.”
Lately I have inherited a dog from my daughter. The reason being that she felt she couldn’t take care of him any more since she had another dog that was older and she felt more comfortable with. She wanted me to take him because he was attracted to me more than any other person in our family. I have found that this dog, his name is Wolfey is very sensitive. When Gene and I have words that are unkind to one another he shrinks away and attempts to hide from us. After we realize this and every thing settles down he comes to me and wants a pet.
Another thing that has happened is that when I got this dog he did his business on a pad that we put down on the floor out of sight, because this is what he was used to with my daughter. I did not want to put up with this kind of arrangement, so I started taking him outdoors at least four times a day. He now does his business outside, but it has taken six months of showing my disappointment in him when he doesn’t do what he is supposed to do. The only time that he has an accident now is when I forget or am busy doing other things.
Another thing that started happening was that he would wake up at night and whine and even bark at our bedroom door wanting attention at 2:00 or 3:00am which was not what I wanted at all. I started going to sleep with him on the couch but I didn’t like that because I was uncomfortable. After talking with my daughter I found out he used to sleep in the same room with her and even had a bed with the other dog in her bedroom. Well, I had a blanket that he usually slept on when he was on the couch so I brought it into our bedroom and he sleeps there all night. I am getting my rest and he seems to like this arrangement.
Wolfey has taught me to make a decision and to stick by it and I feel that my worries are disappearing.
Thank you Mastermind for listening and thank you all for contributing your thoughts.
Ethel Van Zanten
Tucson, AZ USA