James Lombard Dublin, Leinster, Ireland
One thing is certain; you are responsible for your own thoughts and actions. What others think of you doesn’t matter; all that matters is what you think of yourself. You should not be trying to impress others; if you do, you are like a cork bobbing helplessly in a stormy sea.
If you feel you are not achieving happiness, you need to look at yourself objectively, to see what you really want and, more importantly, why you want it. We call this “purpose”. Set out clearly on a card what you definitely want and be prepared to spend some time at this. This purpose, if it is to be effective, should be an obsession; it should be something you are willing to die for. If you haven’t got an obsessive desire, you are freewheeling through life as if your existence doesn’t matter. You were created for a purpose: to leave an imprint on posterity. Hill says: “A burning desire to be and to do is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off”.
Once you have discovered your “why”, incorporate it into a self-talk. You could begin like this: “I am calm, confident, respectful, grateful and exhilarated because …..” ; here you could give a reason why you feel that way, related to the achievement of your purpose. At this point, you would now, in my opinion, have developed a perfect self-talk. The use of the present tense and the inclusion of feelings are very important. You should now read your purpose morning and last thing before going to bed at night.
How does your self-talk work? It is like an intense jet of water wearing away a groove in a section of stone; the more you say it the more deeply embedded it becomes in your subconscious mind until you fully believe it and it governs all your thoughts and actions. Say it a thousand times a day until it becomes automatic and you say it without being aware of saying it. When you believe your self-talk, dreams start becoming reality. Plans for realizing your purpose materialize and, assuming it is a worthy purpose, inspiration comes from the Creator of the universe, Whom Hill calls Infinite Intelligence. Hill’s view is: “Verily there is nothing, right or wrong, which belief, plus burning desire, cannot make real”.
You must now persist with your purpose, and like every successful entrepreneur, if your plan fails, seek help, review your plans with the help of a mastermind, and keep on trying. Hill says: “……. no one is ever defeated until defeat is accepted as a reality”.
Returning to my original statements, you are now deciding what is best for you, and designing your own life. What others think or say of you matters nothing.
Regards and best wishes to all.
James Lombard, Dublin, Ireland.