James Lombard Dublin, Leinster, Ireland
Ctrl/C The Six Ghosts of Fear
The following lesson is addressed to me; I am the “you” being spoken to. It is addressed to me, imagining I was in the mental state I was in when I joined Mentoring for Free. That is no longer the case, as I have improved considerably in the meantime, though I have to be constantly vigilant to avoid against slipping back into my former state. You could say it is an exhortation to keep up the mental cleansing.
“It all begins with the study, analysis and understanding of three enemies which you will have to clear out – indecision, doubt and fear.” You have to ask yourself; what are you indecisive about; and what powers do you doubt you have; to find out what your fears are. Then you can probe further as to why indecision, doubt and fear exist in your life and work out a plan of eradication.
Indecision, doubt and fear are interlinked and one leads to the other in that order. As Hill says: “…where one is found, the other two are close at hand”, and, they usually operate stealthily: “They germinate and grow without their presence being observed”. You must study, analyse and understand them before you can take remedial action and the best remedial action is the use of appropriate habitual self-talk.
Suppose you are fearful in certain social situations: afraid to make eye contact with people or afraid to express opinions for fear of ridicule. You need to build up self-confidence to act as if you already possessed it, by seeing yourself in challenging situations while repeating your self-talk many times daily, until you believe it and your thoughts become your reality.
“Fears are nothing more than states of mind. One’s state of mind is subject to control and direction”. When you change your dominating thoughts, they will eventually reproduce themselves in outward physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality. The key to overcoming any fear is self-confidence which is why reciting Hill’s “Five steps to Self-Confidence” along with repeating your purpose statement and your self-talk daily is important because it keeps you focused and it prevents thoughts from outside influences invading the mind.
“The starting point of the path that leads to riches is desire”. Make your desires clear in your purpose statement and nourish them with your self-talk, because self-confidence or the lack of it depends upon how strong that desire is. There are many forms of poverty but poverty of thought is the greatest, so know yourself by studying and analysing your fears objectively. It may not be a pleasant experience but it needs to be done. As Napoleon Hill says, “You are after the truth. Get it no matter at what cost though it may temporarily embarrass you”.
“Worry is a state of mind based upon fear”, and: “… an unsettled mind is helpless.” Lack of confidence causing one to fear what others may say or think can bring about a weak personality. Perceived slights or hurts can follow in vicious unending cycles, so when they appear, keep saying ‘stop it’ and focus the mind on the self-talk.
In conclusion, the following statements need to be taken into consideration:
“The most practical of all methods for controlling the mind is the habit of keeping it busy with a definite purpose backed by a definite plan”.
“If I had the courage to see myself as I really am, I would find out what is wrong with me, and correct it”.
“To be conquered by self is of all things, the most shameful and vile”.
“The Master Key is intangible, but it is powerful! It is the privilege of creating, in your own mind, a burning desire for a definite form of riches."
Regards and best wishes to all.
James Lombard, Dublin, Ireland.