Celeste Smucker Nellysford, VA, United States
Chapter 15 How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
We have made our way through 14 chapters of Hill's book, learning 13 steps that teach us how to transform thoughts into whatever it is we want to have or achieve. Now we have arrived, right? If we have truly mastered the 13 steps, the answer is absolutely "yes!"
Before we get too cocky, though, Hill warns us that indecision which leads to doubt and then to fear can still keep us stuck. In fact these three things can actually germinate and grow "without their presence being observed" and are what keep our minds from being able to receive the good we have worked so hard to achieve.
Fear is tricky and shows up in many forms. It can look like not wanting to call people who download our ebook. Maybe we tell ourselves we're too busy or it's not the right time of day or we don't feel our best. Better wait until later when the stars are aligned just right. But what all of these excuses come down to is fear. We are indecisive about making the call in the first place which leads to doubts about our abilities and fear of making the call.
Fear can also look like concern about what other people think of us. Maybe we fear they'll think we're not smart enough or experienced enough to be a good mentor to others or perhaps we are scared of how our life will change when we have more money. Maybe we'll have to move or find a new set of friends, leaving the old ones behind. So we hold off on doing what needs to be done, the lack of decisiveness allowing doubt and fear to grow.
Or maybe we fear success is just a fantasy and we are setting ourselves up for one more failure, that the people who have been telling us to get realistic were right all along and now we have to admit it to them. Maybe we fear both success and failure keeping us stuck in the same old, same old. When that happens life starts to look very bleak and we may be tempted to give up.
Which is why I really like this quote from Joseph Campbell:
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
What this says to me is that as soon as we recognize fear for what it really is, a ghost with no substance, something that can't harm us, we will enter the cave and find the treasure, whatever that is. Maybe that treasure is more money or maybe for the first time we are free to be who we really are, not worrying about what someone else thinks of us. Maybe we recognize that whether we succeed or fail in any particular venture, it all happens for a reason and we move on with even more confidence to something else no matter what.
Remember Michael and Linda Dlouhy lost the full time income they had built in two companies before learning enough about our industry to create Mentoring for Free. How different all of our lives would be if one of those companies hadn't failed. Instead they moved through the fear and disappointment and found the treasure.
What is the cave you fear to enter? What holds you back and keeps you stuck? What do you fear the most? Whatever it is, the solution to what ails you is in the 13 steps of Hill's book.
The more we practice our self talk, shifting out of negative thoughts and into positive, the more we inspire ourselves with a powerful "Why," and the more we develop faith in the process and in ourselves, the quieter our minds and the more aware we become until we are able to flow with whatever comes our way knowing all experiences are moving us forward to the success we want. When that happens we banish the ghosts and find the treasure that has been there all along.
Celeste Smucker, Nellysford, VA