Pamela Liberto Clearwater, FL, USA
The mind is a powerful thing as is the wil for something!n Just being told you cannot do something or medically you should not be able to do things, is how you preceive it! I have has a long struggle with sickness and being financally independent. I am hungry and ready and persistant to go after what I want. Objects are thrown. in my way everyday, but that is life. Timing is everything and I need to believe that all thingws are for the great good for me.God has been working on me for a life time, and I still am not there, but I am willing and able to come back to my core and try again. At least, when failing, I learned something new, but I pick myself up and go forward again. I know, that I am here to be a blessing and not only help myself but othrs as well.
Have you noticed the pushback against our go-go-go-achieve-achieve-achieve culture?
Women everywhere – myself included – are leading the conversation about the return of the Feminine, and a shift away from “overly masculine” goal-oriented energy.
I’ve heard some women talking about achievement like it’s a bad thing. (My sense is that they don’t really believe that, but they ARE tired, frustrated and fed up.)
Some even confess that while they’re frustrated as hell with our go-go-go insanity, they’re conflicted because, well, they’re achievers. They strive a lot. They have dreams, desires and aspirations that are important to them.
What if that “strive” to achieve is really pointing you in the direction of your purpose?
We all have a deep, primal urge to grow, expand, BEcome. Joseph Campbell calls it your “bliss.” Wallace Wattles, “more life.” I call it Desire.
Just because the impulse has become distorted by the environment we’re living in doesn’t make it BAD.
Try to bury it and you’re just going to end up frustrated, depressed, and even ashamed (“Who am I to have these Desires?”).
And our Desires DO have tangible results…. it’s much more than just chasing a feeling.
Those tangible results — those achievements – matter, because they create literal, visible change in the world.
That’s why it’s so important that we stop apologizing for our Desires, stop apologizing for the drive to achieve, and give ourselves permission to pursue our ambitions full-out.
It’s a decision that we make.
Now you might be thinking, “Easier said than done, especially if you wrestle with doubts, fears and feeling like you’re not good enough. (I’ve been there, done all of that.)
There is a part of us that longs for approval and begs for permission. As you’ve probably discovered, you can give time to that part ‘til your dying day… and still it’ll never be satisfied.
At some point you have to just say, “This is who I am. This is what I’m going to do. Starting… now.”
Once I made the decision to go for what I really wanted in business, without apology… everything became easier. I discovered that there’s actually a method to giving yourself permission, and it’s this method that allowed me to build a 7-figure business serving women around the world. I share that with you here:
Step 1: Recognize that all the “yeahbuts” aren’t really your own.
As human beings, we can’t help but “pick up stuff” from the people in our environment, especially as children. Then the beliefs that are handed to us when we’re young end up running the show for years – rearing their heads as doubts, fears, and feelings of inadequacy every time we try to take a step forward.
Most people will never realize this is happening, let alone shift it. But as Feminine Leaders and entrepreneurs, moving through fear is not an option – it’s a requirement.
Here’s a simple way to get started. The next time you feel doubt, fear or an inkling of “I can’t,” stop and examine the idea from a place of curiosity. Is it truly yours? Probably not. You can safely release it or give it back to whoever it came from.
“I will not stand for you holding yourself as anything less than the powerful woman I truly am.” Others could see my brilliance when I couldn’t see it for myself.
Without that reflection, I can honestly say that I’d probably still be in the same place. And that’s why it’s SO important that you surround yourself with people who will SEE you.
Most women don’t have people in their day-to-day lives who truly see them and hold them accountable to their greatness. But I promise you, there are people out there who WILL. It’s your responsibility to find them, even when it means investing in yourself to do it.
The flipside of receiving support is boundaries. Surrounding yourself with amazing people also means limiting your exposure to negative, dream-stealing people and ideas.
No, this doesn’t mean you have to give up all of your friends – in fact, your growth can be a true gift to those you care about. You can have compassion for those who are hurting, as negative people truly are. But you must take back your power by setting clear boundaries with the people who drag you down. (This also goes for what media you allow into your field. Turning off the television is a great first step!)
When the clutter of doubt, fear, and negativity is gone, what do you get to say YES to?
Hire the mentor. Go to the event. Reach out to that potential partner. Throw the “rules” out the window and be yourself. Say what you really mean without worrying what others will think. When you’re feeling shaky, reach out to your support system.
Saying YES to your dream consistently is a practice, one that creates incredible momentum. Small “yeses” count – celebrate them all!
When you start applying this method you’ll discover your energy shifting from a place of uncertainty, confusion or fear to a place of personal power – the best energy state from which to create and grow your business.
Whatever you want to create this year – whether it’s to double or triple your business, cut the time you work in half, treat yourself to a 2-week vacation, share the stage with big players, land your book deal – it is totally possible for you…. when you give yourself permission.
I celebrate my courage to do just that!, and anyone else's courage to that as well!