Ed Rands Kelowna, BC, Canada
This chapter explains in depth why a man, for a good woman, would charge hell with a bucket of water.
Quoting snippets from this chapter:
“Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but its forces are like a cyclone—they are often uncontrollable. … When driven by his desire to please a woman, based solely upon the emotion of sex, a man may be, and usually is, capable of great achievement, but his actions may be disorganized, distorted, and totally destructive. When driven by his desire to please a woman, based upon the motive of sex alone, a man may steal, cheat, and even commit murder.”
The world is filled with men and women who have irrevocably altered their own lives, and the lives of others, in a negative or mixed way by the results of being driven by sex untempered by little else.
Emotional pain, prison sentences, children suffering in an incomplete or torn family structure, unhealthy job choices in ancient and huge industries, children who’ve never been allowed to live, and more.
It sounds cliché, but love is largely the answer. Hill goes on to say:
“When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgment, and balance. …When the emotion of LOVE is mixed with the emotion of sex, that same man will guide his actions with more sanity, balance, and reason. … Love, Romance, and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise, and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius.”
Love is what keeps one on the correct side of boundaries. Love is what alters the motivation to be less about one’s own immediate desires, and more about what’s good for the other person. Love is what gives the desire a powerfully positive purpose.